Love is like buying a house; you invest time into something that will ultimately either fall apart or benefit your life immensely as the moments turn into cherished memories.
The odds of it being the idealistic scenario you imagined in your mind for years is a short branch on a grown tree.
And the odds of it being your enemy for years to come is exceedingly higher.
Every blossoming love affair is beautiful in their early stages of development, and I’m sure it will have a lasting impression on you for many days, nights, months, possibly even years or a lifetime.
I’m not saying it’s necessarily always a bad thing.
Falling hook, line and sinker for someone is most times inevitable, those feelings are like fireworks; they’re all around and hard to ignore. That instinct of
“this person could be the love of my life, my soulmate“.
I’ve been there, done that, had my fair share of happiness and heartbreak. I wouldn’t change it for the world though, it has shown me that you depend on yourself and not other people, less disappointment that way. And you gain a lot of strength and clarity in the long run. The best thing about this journey of self-discovery is acknowledging your own worth and that it shouldn’t be defined by what other seek, but more, what you already have.
A little advice: Don’t neglect your friends, they will be your shoulder to cry on when love departs. For the most part, focus on strengthening your own mind, heart, soul; the entirety of it. Remember, self-care is key to peace of mind.
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